It’s now six weeks since my dear friend John died. That six
weeks apparently has magical powers. Sometimes it shortens so much as to feel
like it was just yesterday when he died; and at other times it expands so much
as to feel like it has become another, parallel world.
One of the ways I try to make sense of – and cope with – the
world is through music. There are so many great artists out there who have just
the right words, just the right sound, provoke just the right memory, and I
find comfort in their art.
During one of my “dips” a couple of weekends back, I decided
it was time to do A John F Playlist. Because there are songs that remind me of
him; there are songs he loved; there are songs that say something appropriate.
Of course, the 34-track long-list has had to be honed down so that it could fit
on a CD. There were some great “almost but not quite” tracks that didn’t
survive the cull: PJ Harvey’s Silence,
Tim Minchin’s Not Perfect, Depeche
Mode’s Personal Jesus amongst others.
But I like what has survived and wanted to share.
1. The Flaming Lips Do
You Realize?? (Yoshimi Battles The Pink Robots)
This is the gut-punching reality hitter:
Do You Realize - that you have the most beautiful face
Do You Realize - we're floating in space -
Do You Realize - that happiness makes you cry
Do You Realize - that everyone you know someday will die
Yup. FPOS or what? And yet, it is a beautiful song, managing
a strong thread through its fragility.
2. Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds The Weeping Song (The Good Son)
This one just captures the sadness that has pervaded John’s
circle of family, friends and acquaintances.
This is a weeping song
A song in which to weep
While we rock ourselves to sleep.
There is always – seemingly – enough sadness for one more
cry. I don’t know if John knew Cave’s music, but I do know he laughed at some
of the outrageous selective quotes I told from The Death Of Bunny Munro as I read it at Long Beach one summer.
3. Eels It’s A
Motherfucker (Daisies Of The Galaxy)
Another simple, beautiful, reality checker:
It's a motherfucker
Being here without you
Thinking 'bout the good times
Thinking 'bout the bad
And I won't ever be the same
Mark Everett knows loss, and knows sometimes it just can’t
be dressed up, be smoothed out, be varnished. It just is, and that can be a motherfucker alright.
4. Gong The Pot
Head Pixies (Flying Teapot (Radio Gnome Invisible Part I))
This makes me laugh, and remember another side of times with
John. Nuff said.
5. Bob Dylan Political
World (Oh Mercy)
As Bob sings:
We live in a political world
and I miss John in my political world. Hardly a political
day goes by without my wondering “What would John have thought?” and sometimes
having a good idea of the answer, but often not. I watched a bit of the UK
House of Lords debate on the equal marriage proposals and remembered John’s
delight at getting dinner at the Lords and a tour of parliament a good few years
back. He loved the over-the-top pomp and glitz, and the ludicrous history there
(the Queen’s robing room had him in stitches). And he would have found Lord
Tebbit’s ludicrous speech (with its fear of a “lesbian Queen on the throne”) as
hysterically laughable and nastily vitriolic in pretty equal measure.
6. Frank Zappa Half
A Dozen Provocative Squats (200 Motels)
John’s favourite Zappa lyric which he would sing out loud as
he danced around the apartment:
Out of the shower she squeezes her spots
Brushes her teeth
Shoots a deoderant spray up her twot
It made him laugh, and made me laugh too.
7. Bomb The Bass Bug
Powder Dust (Clear)
Extolling the world of William Burroughs
I think it’s time to discuss your philosophy of drug use as it relates
to artistic endeavour
I just remember John through this. He knew more about
medication than anyone else I've known, and shared his expertise with great care and thoughtfulness. His
ability to research possible treatments for whatever was ailing those he
loved, and to explain what might be going on in ways that were at once
understandable is something I miss. Oh, and he would have liked the references
to
Mugwump jism
8. Original Stage Cast Frank Mills (Hair!)
Simply John’s favourite song from Hair!, and his favourite version.
9. Julian Cope The
Black Sheep’s Song (Black Sheep)
I don’t know that John ever heard this, but it reminds me of
him, and of me and him.
I am the black sheep of this flock
And I can answer to no one.
I see you are the black sheep of your flock, too,
Methinks it takes one to know one.
I loved my
conversations with John when we were both seemingly thinking and believing the
same things about the world, black sheep in the flock together.
10. Peter Gabriel Don’t
Give Up (So)
This captures the loving group of friends that surrounded
John. He cultivated good friends, partly because of his loyalty, honesty and
utter commitment to others, and partly because he engendered the same in his
friends. It reminds me that John’s intense self-sufficiency was bolstered by
his knowledge that there were many who he could turn to, if push came to shove.
11. Tom Waits I
Don’t Wanna Grow Up (Bone Machine)
Whilst I don’t remember ever seeing John dancing around
singing this, I picture him doing just that when I hear it! And I think it
captures something of the spirit of John who, in meeting Kenneth, actually did
“grow up”, as he reflected on it.
12. The Proclaimers Letter
From America (This Is The Story)
John loved Scotland. I treasure a holiday we did with him
and Kenneth, remembering climbing the top road above Tarbert and looking down
on the harbour and how relaxing it was for John. And me and him going to get
chips on a Hogmanay evening in Glasgow. And his love of the “hairy coos”!
13. Original Stage Cast The Flesh Failures (Let The Sunshine In) (Hair!)
Okay, so one of my own desert island discs, this, but
somehow Hair! needed a second
representation.
Singing our space songs on a spider web sitar
Life is around you and in you
The joy and
sadness this brings me every time I hear it mirrors the joy and sadness I feel
when thinking of John.
14. E.S.T. Believe,
Beleft, Below (Seven Days Of Falling)
Another one of my desert island ones, this is just about the
most perfect four and bit minutes of lush jazz imaginable. Esbjörn Svensson,
the pianist who led this trio, also died far too early. But in this piece I
feel he found the elusive link between pure music and the soul.
15. David Bowie Heroes
(Heroes)
This is one of those tracks I recently heard and immediately
thought “That’s John”.
We can be heroes, just for one day
I don’t think it is an overstatement to call him a hero. The
changes he made in the lives of so many were heroic. The way in which he lived
his no compromise life was heroic. His capacity to care was heroic. His
thinking was heroic.
16. Pink Floyd Wish
You Were Here (Wish You Were Here (Experience edition))
How, how I wish you were here
That sums it up. The version (as John would indulge me in
this) has, of course, to be the right one. Not the one from the special edition
half-speed mastered vinyl album I bought in a now-defunct New York store. Not
the standard album version. But the one sought after for decades by Floyd-heads
and finally released as part of the Experience edition. This has the legendary
Stephane Grappelli violin improvisations in it, and they bring another layer of
poignancy to an already perfect track.
So that’s my John F Playlist. I think he would have liked it
as a compilation album, though would not have agreed with all my rationales for
the choices. But I know he would have known how much love had gone into pulling
it together, and would have (quietly) enjoyed that.